Determining when and how to neg effectively requires much more practice and experience than most things in the game. Too hard or at the wrong time, and the girl gets insulted and you're blown out. Not doing it at all leaves a useful tool unused.
I'm going to suggest that you don't put negs at the top of your toolbox, and here's why: negs work against the positive energy of the interaction. The purpose of a neg is to take a girl that is acting like she is too good to talk to you and to subtly remind her that she's not a princess. If you open with a neg, you're essentially presupposing that the girl is going to be bitchy right from the start, which is going to put you in a less positive state and potentially ruin your confidence, posture, voice tone, and conversational flow. Instead, walk into every set assuming that the girl is going to be estatic that you approached, and go in with the intention of adding value to her day.
If you run your opener and she's still in "princess mode," give it at least one more try to convert it to a fun, playful interaction without using a neg. A lot of times, princess mode is simply a brief test of your nerves that she'll drop once she sees you weren't scared off, and simply continuing the conversation is enough to fix things. Save the negs for just a little bit later in the interaction, when you've built rapport but she happens to lapse back into princess mode.
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