Neg Softening

Let's say I'm walking up to a 3set of HB8.5s blondes. I'm a new PUA, so I really want to "neg" them really badly, because it sounds cool to be able to say such things to really hot women.

In interactions with girls, I would group "negative" comments into 3 categories:

Insults - A comment that is directly negative with no intended misinterpretation or mitigating factors. Ex.: "Hey, your roots are showing!"

Negs - A comment that makes a girl think of her imperfections without actually criticising them. Ex.: "Hey, I love your hair it's amazing... is that the natural color?"

Playfulness - A comment that's either directly insulting but she knows you're just teasing (keeping in mind that sometimes a girl won't accept that you're "teasing" until you have rapport, social proof, or body language or steel) or a compliment that's blatantly not true. Body language and especially facial expressions are crucially important. Ex.: "My hair coloring is totally better than yours. We'll work on you, little girl... you have potential!"

If you're about to make a "negative" comment to a girl, first consider which of these 3 categories it falls into. If it's a true neg or it's playful, great (as long as you have the timing and body language down). If it's an insult, consider "softening" it. What I mean by this is think of a better way to say it that is either playful or a neg.

Soften: "Hey you're pretty short!"
To: "So I saw this girl last night that was about your height, and this 6'1" chick was picking on her, so the your-height-girl decked her right in the face and the tall chick ran away crying. You little ones are like little ninjas... I have to watch out for you." (jump to "you can be my [bodyguard/cockblocker]" thread, etc.)

Soften: "Wow you're a bitch!"
To: "Aww you're like a little Power Puff Girl... that's adorable!!"

Insults usually don't have a place in your game, but playfulness and negs both have distinct points in time where they're great. Here's another opportunity: when a girl is putting herself down...

HB9SkinnyChick: "Look at my rolls of fat! *pinches stomach"
PUA: "Eh... *pinches her stomach* I think it's more the thighs I'd be worried about! *grin*"
- or -
PUA: "Eh... I wasn't going to say anything, but... :)"

Negs tend to work better than most playfulness at disarming bitch shields (depending on how strong the shield). After all, if she's still in bitch mode, she's not going to be responsive to your teasing. So, be playful when she's being fun, and neg when she's not.

Posted by: Affection