Important To Remember, Especially While Peacocking

Most guys that you'll see are neglecting one of the easiest ways to make themselves approachable. When you walk up to a woman (or she comes up to you), obviously you want her to feel comfortable talking to you, and to presuppose that you're a fun guy.

You can do this in less than a second -- with good eye contact and a good smile.

PUAs often describe approaches as either "warm" or "cold." A "warm approach" means that you have some kind of an introduction or prior contact with the woman. A "cold approach" means that you are approaching a woman with whom you have no prior contact, relationship, or introduction. Obviously, a warm approach gives you an advantage, and she won't simply dismiss you as may happen on an unfortunate cold approach.

You can "warm" an approach without any prerequisites -- or even any words -- by catching a girl's eye and smiling at her. Here's how it's done:

Your starting point is to catch her looking at you. If you're "peacocking" (dressed outrageosly to catch womens' attention), this will happen easily (and you'd better take advantage of it, or she may think your style makes you unapproachable!). If not, it will happen soon enough by chance if you're in the same area as her. Ideally, you don't want her to catch you looking at her, as this conveys interest too early (and if done too much, you're the creepy guy that's staring at her!), so look at a point next to her where you can catch her eyes in your peripheral vision and then shift your eyes onto hers once she looks at you.

I know, it seems complicated, but I can usually get it done within 30 seconds.

From here, it's simple: smile, and don't break eye contact until she does or until at least 5 seconds have passed (count them in your head). It's better to have a staring contest than to look away too soon. If you need "something to do" while maintaining eye contact, smile bigger and bigger, or if you want to be playful, stick your tounge out at her (yes -- I'm serious). What this does is it establishes that you're not afraid to have her know you're looking at her (as opposed to the guy with poor game that stares described above, which girls encounter all the time), and that you're happy and fun. If you can make your smile get bigger as you "happen to notice" that she's looking at you, you're doing it well.

Here's a female perspective on it:

"I like smiles. I remember this one guy: I was hanging over the railing at a club with my girls, and he looked up and gave me the biggest smile. Not shy or anything, a really heartfelt, warm smile, and I was like, 'Wow.' Then he came up [...] to talk to me, and that was a good way to go about it, you know? 'Cause I hate when guys try to act tough or like they weren't looking at you."

The woman quoted above and girl this "one guy" picked up? Christina Aguilera.

Smile. Be "the fun guy."

Posted by: Affection